The Dating Game

For some reason dating seems to be a hot topic as of lately. So I figured I'd blog about it.

Dating is an interesting game. Tonight a friend of mine asked if I am more of a fisherman or the fish. I told him that I'm more like the frog that sits on the log watching everyone else go fishing. So here are some of my thoughts from my observations of the fishing game.

The Hunter, and the Hunted.

Guys say they want girls to just tell them what they think. They say they don't like trying to figure out what in the world we're thinking. Yet, they also say they like the chase. If a girl is too eager or willing to date them, they lose interest in her. Guys, do you want us to tell you that we like you, or do you want us to make you work for it?

The "Friend Zone"

Lately I've heard several guys complaining about the "Friend Zone". The Friend Zone does stink. I always kind of feel bad for guys who are stuck in a girl's Friend Zone. But do guys realize that sometimes girls have the same problem? I mean girls have guy-friends that they like but know would never date them. I think the difference is that girls don't have an official name for that situation like "The Friend Zone" But it really is tricky. I want to say that everyone should give their friends a chance, because everyone wants to marry their best friend, right? But I feel like I am hypocritical by saying so, because I know that there are guys that are in my "Friend Zone".

Hanging Out

We've all heard the talks about how we need to spend more time dating and less time hanging out. I totally agree with this. The problem with hanging out is that it seems to be a never ending cycle. Guys won't ask girls out on dates, so girls just hang out with them. But then, because they are hanging out with them, guys don't have to ask them on dates, so they hang out some more. It is never ending. I don't think I could say if guys ore girls are more responsible for this cycle. But I would say that this cycle is what creates the "Friend Zone" (See previous paragraph).

Love Confessions

This is directly related to the question in "The Hunter, and the Hunted" Should we play hard to get, or should we just tell a person when we like them? I think the biggest fear that people have in confessing their love for someone is that it will freak the person out and they will run away. But let's be honest, as long as they aren't a complete stranger, it can't be that bad. I wish that more people would confess their love fore each other.

"We'll just see if it goes anywhere"

One of the most frustrating things about the dating game is when people say "We'll just see if it goes anywhere" and then don't do anything about it. I hate when people do that. It's like saying, that instead of casting your line into the water, you're just going to sit on the shore and see if a fish jumps into your lap and cooks itself. It's not going to happen. If you like someone and want something to happen, you've got to at least let them know that you're interested. Nothing is ever going to happen if nothing changes.

Welp, there you go folks. There's my soapbox. Now get out there and date.